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I agree "You Outta Know" is a female angst rock anthem, Brian.

However, none of you MEN "get" Step to the Side at all. The song IS NOT about anger, or getting even, or killing someone. The song is about a woman who has been victimized and bullied by her husband making the choice to take control of her life. The song is about EMPOWERMENT! Totally different than a song about a cheating boyfriend or getting rid of "Earl".

You MEN are so basic and primal! You hear a song like "Step to the Side" and immediately think, "Oh, she must be PMSing." The only reason you like Allanis Morrisette is because she says lines like "Go down on you in a theater" and "...scratch my nails down someone else's back..." (you're picturing her having sex). When I wrote "If You Could", the only line men remembered was "When we make love to eachother, would you look into my eyes". I've actually been told it's repetitive! NO IT'S NOT! I'm asking specific, equally important but VERY DIFFERENT questions about a potential relationship, but only women "get it". Men hear "When we make love to eachother..." and then "BLAH, BLAH, BLAH" after that because there's not enough sexual content to hold their attention.

That's why women write differently than men and why women like different types of songs than men do. Our brains are wired differently, so it only stands to reason that different things will appeal to us.

And yeah, Mike, I hear ya on the music part. It was just a guitar/vocal demo, and perhaps the song needs more of an "edge" to it. Glyn and I were talking, and I was actually going to enlist my buddy Haze to help me with that part.

Anyway, it dawned on me that most men won't "get" Step to the Side, but most women will. Every woman I've ever played it for went NUTS over it! So, we'll just have to agree to disagree and I'll get my butt busy with the song!