Oh Beth... I am so, so sorry.
This must be so traumatic, especially to be gone when you didn't want to be gone. I'm glad you took the time to write notes and wrap her in a blanket, and that you'll have her ashes staying with you.

My friend found a very lovely ceramic case/box for their large dog's ashes when he passed away. It's a blessing to their family to have that. I don't think it's a waste or a luxury... you'll be glad you did that.

We buried Tango in our backyard. I thought about cremation but felt better about putting him there next to all the other pets we've lost since moving to this house. We have a regular pet cemetery out there... and it was appropriate, for us.

Please know that you have all my empathy and sympathies at this difficult time. A pet is so loving and unconditional in that love, that it can truly be equally as hard to lose that beloved pet as to lose a human family member.

Give yourself time to mourn.
I still am. <sniffle>
I'm sorry I wasn't here on the 26th when you first wrote.
It may not be much consolation... but it's OK to forgive yourself... and Murphy sounds like she was in loving arms when she passed on... not your own, but she was loved and cared for.

The only lasting therapy I know of is another little furball.
I haven't found one myself yet.
Bless you - I will be thinking of you and praying for you.
If it means anything... I do believe animals have an afterlife just as we do, and that Murphy will be waiting for you to wrap around your legs again... someday.

Take care,
Linda